Polygamy in Islam: I DON’T WANT MY HUSBAND TO MARRY ANOTHER WIFE — Your Number One Unexpected Story
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BismiLLAH. AlhamduliLLAH.
“I DON’T WANT MY HUSBAND TO MARRY ANOTHER WIFE.
I don’t want polygamy.”
It is enough heartache to think about how traumatising it would feel to share one’s spouse intimately—both emotionally and physically. If merely thinking about it, without actually living through it, can cause so much pain, how painful would living through it be?
The pain of polygamy has changed many married women into what they are not. And the pain they undergo—I am certain I do not want to know.
I want to live a life of living, not coping.
I want to live a life where I speak about the mercy of ALLAH most of the time, not about His tests all the time.
I want to live a life of tranquillity, not rancour.
I want to be in the kind of marriage that the daughter of the Prophet ﷺ—Zaynab bint Muhammad—was in; the marriage that Ruqayyah bint Muhammad was in: a monogamous marriage.
I want a marriage that will be a source of mercy, love, and tranquillity.
I do not want to be in a marriage where all I will ever do is cope.
Even if I say—with my tongue—that I can cope with polygamy,
I would simply be lying.
I cannot cope with polygamy.
I know this with definiteness.
But what if polygamy is thrown upon me?
Hmmmm…
Thinking about this is deeply distressing.
If this sounds like you, read carefully.
In the law of ALLAH, you are allowed to choose NOT to be in polygamy.
You can choose monogamy.
That sentence is not a typo.
I know you may have no idea that Islamic law allows a woman to choose monogamy if she does not want polygamy.
I know this may be the first time you are hearing it.
And I know you may need a comprehensive explanation, supported by evidence from the Qur’an, the Sunnah, and the books of classical scholars who followed the message of Muhammad ﷺ.
You deserve evidence that convinces you beyond doubt.
Taking this into consideration, I wrote Polygamy Ijma’a—a research work on polygamy that presents clear evidence that, in the law of ALLAH, a Muslim woman is permitted to choose monogamy.
The full title is:
Polygamy Ijma’a: A Groundbreaking Research Work on Polygamy in Islam
It is a simple series of seven entries, with additional long bonus stories at the end for those who appreciate narrative learning.
By the will of ALLAH, in this book you will learn that all the Companions—including ʿUmar ibn al-Khattab, Saʿd ibn Abi Waqqas, Muʿawiyah, and ʿAmr ibn al-ʿAs (may ALLAH be pleased with them)—consensually agreed that it is permissible for a Muslim woman to choose monogamy as the form of marriage she wishes to practise.
You may ask:
- What is the evidence for this claim?
- Which scholar documented this consensus?
- In which classical text was it recorded?
Through Polygamy Ijma’a, you will find clear answers—by the will of ALLAH.
Scholars who shared this view include:
- Imam Malik
- Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal
- Ibn Qudāmah
- Ibn Taymiyyah
- Shaykh Ibn ʿUthaymeen
- Shaykh Ṣāliḥ al-Fawzān
- Shaykh Assim al-Hakeem
- Shaykh Sayyid Sabiq
- And the leader of the believers of his time, ʿUmar ibn ʿAbdul-ʿAziz
Through their teachings, you will learn that Islamic law permits you, as a Muslim woman, to choose monogamy.
In other words, Islam allows you to decide NOT to be in polygamy.
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Your opportunity to clear all doubts and gain comprehensive understanding is here. Do not lose it.
1. IS IT REALLY TRUE?
“Is it really true that Islamic law allows a Muslim woman to decide NOT to be in polygamy? I’ve never heard of this.”
You haven’t heard it because nobody talks about it.
You were not told that algebra came from the Muslim scholar Al-Jabr, or that algorithms trace back to Al-Khawarizmi, or that the longest-running university in the world was founded by a Muslim woman—Fatima al-Fihri. In medicine and science, many Muslim contributions remain unknown simply because nobody talks about them.
The same applies here.
If something is true, yet no one speaks about it, you will never know it.
It is true that a Muslim woman can choose NOT to practise polygamy—and I am bringing this knowledge to you from the foremost scholars: the Sahabah.
So read in the name of ALLAH.
If you are still in doubt or confused, allow me to say something that may completely shift your perspective.
In Surat al-Mā’idah (5:5), Almighty Allah made it permissible for a Muslim man to marry Christian women. The Companions of the Prophet ﷺ married Christian women, and they fully understood one crucial fact:
the permissibility of marriage did not mean obligation.
Those women were completely free to refuse such marriages. No Companion ever assumed that Allah’s permission imposed a duty upon the woman to accept.
Likewise, in Qur’an 4:3, Almighty Allah made it permissible for Muslim men to marry two, three, or four women. The Companions practiced this allowance—and they also understood something just as fundamental:
a Muslim woman has the absolute right to decide that she does not wish to be one of those two, three, or four women—until the day she dies.
For this reason, she may stipulate a no-polygamy (monogamy-only) condition in her marriage contract.
This is basic.
This is simple.
This is common sense.
So why, then, must I write an entire book to explain it?
In fact, even new Muslim women—those who encounter Qur’an 4:3 for the first time—immediately grasp this reality. They instinctively understand that a man being allowed to marry more than one wife does not erase a woman’s choice or agency in the matter.
So why is it that today, Muslim women who were born into Islam, raised under sermons and religious instruction their entire lives, are the ones being told otherwise?
The answer is simple—and it lies in this letter.
If you are a Muslim woman who has been told that polygamy was permitted because of men’s sexual desire, or because women outnumber men, then prepare yourself—because this book, Polygamy Ijmāʿa, will challenge everything you were taught to accept without question.
Together, we will return to the Qur’an and the Sunnah and examine whether there is any authentic evidence for these claims—claims often delivered with absolute authority by people reputed for knowledge and for opposing innovation.
We will look into the Qur'an, the books of Hadith, and study all narrations of understanding from the companions carefully, and see whether there's any evidence for all those “reasons”, that have been presented as to why polygamy was made halal. We will answer hard questions about what has been misused, and what is truly authentic regarding polygamy.
And only then can Muslim women reclaim clarity, truth, and informed consent—exactly as Islam intended.
So read and do not let Shayṭān rob you of the delight of knowledge.
You do not need 50 hours to complete this series.
In a short time, you will understand—without confusion—that Islamic law allows you to choose monogamy.
It is:
- Fast
- Easily accessible
- Written in clear English
Finally,
Remember that Polygamy Ijma’a presents answers from the perspective of:
- The Companions (may ALLAH be pleased with them),
- Classical scholars,
- And reliable scholars of our time.
By the will of ALLAH, this series is the balm needed to ease polygamy-related distress.
Read, and abolish confusion.
Read, and may ALLAH accept it as an act of worship. Āmīn.
Read, and do not let Shayṭān trap you in avoidable agony.
Read, and benefit from the mercy of ALLAH packed as knowledge.
Sincerely,
Your sister in Islam,
Hamidah
Author of Polygamy Ijma’a (free)
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