بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ
In the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the most Merciful
Sisters in Islam, trust only ALLAH. Stay with ALLAH: For men is what they've earned and for women is what they've earned
Men inherited the pulpit of the Prophet ﷺ
Lineage is traced through men
Male pronouns are primary/predominant in the glorious Qur'an
Men inherit twice as much as women
Sisters in Islam,
Almighty ALLAH gave Mahr to women and Muslim men still want to take it away......!!!!!!
Sisters in Islam, don't let anybody cheat you!!!
If you aren't sure what to collect as Mahr,
Make Istikharah and collect something that'll set you up financially for life.
A House. A Business. A Hospital.
Mahr is the financial security that Almighty ALLAH bestowed on women.
Don't let anybody brainwash you into collecting something pathetic.
Love is cheap.
Marriage is practical.
Men get twice as women in inheritance.
Men aren't shy or sorry about it.
And never do they give it up as a “virtue”.
Poverty ain't virtuous
The Prophet ﷺ seeks refuge with ALLAH from poverty, every morning and evening.
Seek refuge with ALLAH from poverty and do not let the Shayṭān that speaks in righteous men cheat you out of a reasonable Mahr.
You can save money on your wedding.
Celebrate modestly.
But never on your Mahr.
The Prophet Musa (Alayhi salaam) paid 10 years of labour as Mahr and Almighty ALLAH didn't say the Mahr is too much.
Sisters, don't let Muslim Scholars and Brothers, brainwash you out of what Almighty ALLAH has bestowed on you.
You don't see them leaving what Almighty ALLAH has given them.
Almighty ALLAH inherited the Minbar of Muhammad ﷺ to them.
I.e Only men can be Imaams, women can never become Imaams.
Men get twice the inheritance that women get.
Men get so much.
The thing that Almighty ALLAH gave us, they want to sermon, gaslight, guilt us out of.
Don't be foolish sisters, even if he studied Islam for 10 million years as long as he's a human, he's a sinner and he could be tempted to cheat you out of what Almighty ALLAH has granted you as a favour.
When he commits the sin of restricting what Almighty ALLAH has expanded and made vast, turn your back against him.
It is obligatory to disobey PIOUS, PURE, RIGHTEOUS, KNOWLEDGEABLE PEOPLE who have decided to make small what Almighty ALLAH has made wide.
Don't let the weight of their names decieve you, they are human beings, abandon their words when they abandon the words of ALLAH.
take from men what they owe you without apology.
The rich owe the poor 2.5% of Zakat.
Men owe women Mahr, any man that is wicked enough to guilt you into collecting a useless, pathetic Mahr that doesn't bestow financial security on you should be avoided.
From among women, there are those who have died from pregnancy.
There's no amount of money that could pay a woman for the risksssss of marriage.
Mahr is not a pathetic little gift.
Don't let anybody make it into that for you.
Avoid men who spiritualise and make into virtue, the act of withholding what Almighty ALLAH has bestowed on the womb-carrying humans.
We are the Messengers of life,
If men, the Messengers of messages, have decided to disrespect us.
It has become obligatory on us, not to disrespect ourselves!
Again, hate the message of those who are trying to brainwash you to collect pathetic Mahr.
Hate their message.
Collect a poverty ending Mahr.
Seek refuge with ALLAH from Muslim men and Muslim scholars who trivialise Mahr, perhaps they don't realise the evil of their wickedness, make duaa for them but don't be decieved by them.
They have made it their full-time job to twist the religion of ALLAH.
Anything that Almighty ALLAH has made vast for women, they are in the business of making it small for women.
Women, we are their mothers!
If they forget who we are, we must never forget who we are.
Say no to the brainwashing of righteous, learned Muslim men.
Whether he's an elder or a boy or a young man, the moment he moves against you, seek refuge with ALLAH and charge back against their gender-based-injustice. Fight back. Charge back.
In Qur’ān 4:20, Almighty ALLAH explicitly made it clear that a woman’s mahr can be extremely large — even a qinṭār — and still a husband has no right to take it back unjustly.
A qintar is a mountain of gold.
A mountain of gold.
Sisters in Islam, Almighty ALLAH says that you can collect a mountain of gold as your Mahr.
Don't let anyone decieve you!!!
When Almighty ALLAH has spoken, avoid humans whose full-time job is going against the words of ALLAH, when the subject concerns women.
Avoid those people! Even if they have 30 million years of seeking knowledge on their bio.
Any human who doesn't obey ALLAH must be disobeyed!
Sisters, when it comes to Mahr, if he's poor and struggling, instead of collecting 200 houses, collect only one. That's lenient. Collect something lenient like only one house, please.
Sisters, in Islam,
There's a reason why my slogan is “Only ALLAH”.
Believing men have made it their full-time time job to cheat women.
We must end this.
We are their mothers.
There's no son who wants paradise that should move against the mothers of this Ummah.
Even if he's poor. Dont marry him.
Fāṭimah bint Qays (RA) said:
“When I completed my waiting period, Muʿāwiyah ibn Abī Sufyān and Abū Jahm were among those who proposed to me.
So I went to the Prophet ﷺ to consult him.
He said:
‘As for Abū Jahm, he never puts down his stick from his shoulder.
As for Muʿāwiyah, he is poor and has no wealth.’
‘Marry Usāmah ibn Zayd.’”
— Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim (1480)
- The Prophet ﷺ said he was “ṣu‘lūq”
Meaning:
- extremely poor
- possessing no wealth
Some people paraphrase this today as “stingy,” but that is not what the hadith says.
The Prophet ﷺ warned her that Muʿāwiyah could not provide financially, not that he was miserly.
Sisters, don't marry poor men who aren't capable of providing because Almighty ALLAH says:
Qur’ān 24:33
وَلْيَسْتَعْفِفِ الَّذِينَ لَا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّىٰ يُغْنِيَهُمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ
“And let those who cannot afford to marry
remain chaste until Allah enriches them from His bounty.”
Key word: yasta‘fif = practice chastity, self-restraint.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“O young men, whoever among you is able to marry, let him marry…
and whoever is not able, then let him fast, for it will be a protection for him.”
— Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī (5066), Muslim (1400)
So:
- Qur’ān → tells men who cannot afford marriage to remain chaste.
- Hadith → adds practical advice: fasting to control desire.
Sisters, a responsible, non-wicked man who's poor won't be chasing after marriage.
He won't be seeking to subject you to a harrowing life.
It takes a level of evil and wickedness for a poor man who can't provide to be chasing after marriage.
However, if the man is poor and he can still provide that's another case entirely,
Almighty ALLAH say in Qur’ān 24:32:
وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ ۚ إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ
“Marry off the single ones among you …
If they are poor, Allah will enrich them from His bounty.”
Marriage in Islam is based on:
- dīn (religion)
- khuluq (character)
- ability to provide responsibly (not wealth itself)
So poverty isn't a barrier to marriage as long as the man can provide.
However, the evil that Muslim men are committing against us, Muslim women, is that they encourage us blindly to marry poor men without any sense of self-preservation.
They pretend that men aren't humans.
Humans are evil and good.
Even the good ones are sinners.
They can be tempted to cheat you.
In the sermons of Muslim men, they have failed to reinforce this distinction between poor men who can provide and poor men who can't provide.
We all know chaste Muslim women who married poor men who can't provide.
We all know the health issue, the debt issues, the embarrassment, the hatred, the enmity, the regret, and the rage they nurse.
And this is the fault of the sermons of Muslim men who won't stop romantising the evil of poverty.
And we also know Muslim women who marry poor men who can provide and we all know that they struggle but they still love. They feel challenges and they still laugh.
Muslim women who are married to providing poor men are world's apart from Muslim women who are married to non-providing poor men, the difference is so vast, there's no comparison. Even if there's no food in the house of a providing poor man for months at a time, they will survive somehow. It's so different from non-providing poor men.
Sisters in Islam, poverty isn't a virtue.
If Almighty ALLAH has chosen a man to be poor to the point that he can't provide, stay away from him.
If he's a good man, he will stay away from marriage.
But he's wicked that's why he's still pursuing you without the capacity to provide at all.
You, my sisters, need to know that even among Muslim men, there are very wicked ones that will enter hell before they enter paradise, don't marry any of those. Even if he gives 19 lectures to tens of thousands per month.
My sister, you should never marry a non-providing poor man.
However, you can marry a providing poor man.
My sister, if you want to marry a providing poor man,
Stipulate your Mahr wisely.
For example,
You can stipulate a percentage of his business or salary for life.
Collect 60%, 20%, 50% every month/week/day/year.
Legislate that he has to pay you a percentage of his profit/income/salary for life.
Be smart about your Mahr.
There are sisters who did this.
When the husband made a few hundred per month, they collected a percentage of it.
When he started making millions on a daily basis, they still continued collecting that percentage steadily.
If he's poor now, legislate a percentage of his income as your Mahr.
Make no mistakes, Mahr is different from nafaq (maintenance, day-to-day upkeep, it is different from Mahr).
Both are in fact, obligatory.
After all, Almighty ALLAH states in Qur’ān 4:34:
ٱلرِّجَالُ قَوَّٰمُونَ عَلَى ٱلنِّسَاءِ
بِمَا فَضَّلَ ٱللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ
وَبِمَآ أَنفَقُوا۟ مِنْ أَمْوَٰلِهِمْ…
“Men are qawwāmūn over women
because Allah has given some (of them) advantages over others
and because they spend (on them) from their wealth…”
The word qawwāmūn does not mean dictatorship or absolute control.
In classical Arabic and in tafsīr, it means:
- financial responsibility
- protection and care
- maintenance
- support
- being accountable before Allah
It is tied directly to provision, as the verse says:
“…because they spend from their wealth.”
So qawwāmah is a duty, not a privilege.
Sisters, men have many privileges, qawwāmahis not one of them.
Almighty ALLAH says:
“Men are qawwāmūn over women
because Allah has given some (of them) advantages over others
and because they spend (on them) from their wealth…”
Read that again, especially, the second line where Almighty ALLAH gave financial advantages to women over men.
بِمَا فَضَّلَ ٱللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ
“because Allah has given some (of them) advantages over others”
We all see all of advantages that Almighty ALLAH has given to men above women:
- Men inherited the pulpit of the Prophet ﷺ
- Lineage is traced through men
- Male pronouns are primary/predominant in the glorious Qur'an
- Men inherit twice as much as women
This qawwāmah that Almighty ALLAH revealed in the Chapter of Women, Sūrah an-Nisa, Qur'an 4:34 is an exclusive favour to women. Don't let anyone take it away from you, my sister.
Sisters in Islam, don't marry a rich or poor man who's stingy. Don't! The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ discouraged a female companion from marrying a severely poor male companion. So do you think He (May the peace of ALLAH bẹ upon Him) will allow you to marry a stingy man?
And now.......let me speak to brothers in Islam.
My brothers in Islam,
Fasting is an option.
Marriage is Not a pillar of Islam.
Almighty ALLAH says give you should give cheerfully graciously.
Qur’ān 4:4
> وَآتُوا النِّسَاءَ صَدُقَاتِهِنَّ نِحْلَةً
“And give the women their mahr (bridal gifts) graciously / cheerfully / as a free gift.”
Any stingy man who can Not give cheerfully and graciously is not qualified for marriage.
Let him stay away from marriage.
Marriage is not a pillar of Islam.
Again, fasting is an option.
Brothers in Islam, I'm not fighting you. I am fighting for you.
There are so many admonitions for Muslim women.
Learned men have failed to remind you sufficiently, this is me helping the Ummah, after all, life is a test and I'll hate to see my brothers in the fire of hell.
So stay away from marriage if you're stingy.
Ablution is obligatory once it's time for Salah.
Provision is obligatory once you decide to get married.
Provide and avoid the fire of ALLAH.
Fail to provide deliberately and the justice of ALLAH is precise!
Some of you are so shameless and useless
Your wife risked her life to birth a child yet she's still the one paying the hospital bills.
What are your plans in life?
Are you planning to stay in hell.
Because hell is the only punishment that is sufficient for some evil.
How can a woman undergo the physiological fire of forming a human brain, bone, skeleton, blood and still go through the life risk of birthing that life only to still pay for the hospital bill.
Explain to me how you won't enter hell-fire before you go to paradise.
Explain!
Or do you think, it's only hell or only paradise?!
No! The justice of ALLAH is far more precise.
For some Muslims, it is hell before paradise.
I hope you aren't some Muslims.
I hope.
If you hate providing, stay away from marriage!!!!
If you're jealous of women and the fact that they get Mahr, stop your jealousy and remember everything that you men have.
Qur’ān 4:32:
وَلَا تَتَمَنَّوْا مَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بِهِ بَعْضَكُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ ۚ لِلرِّجَالِ نَصِيبٌ مِّمَّا اكْتَسَبُوا وَلِلنِّسَاءِ نَصِيبٌ مِّمَّا اكْتَسَبْنَ ۚ وَاسْأَلُوا اللَّهَ مِن فَضْلِهِ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ عَلِيمًا
Translation (Sahih International)
“And do not wish for that by which Allah has made some of you exceed others.
For men is a share of what they earn, and for women is a share of what they earn.
And ask Allah of His bounty. Indeed Allah is ever, of all things, Knowing.”
May Almighty ALLAH bless you a lot.
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AFTERTHOUGHT 2
My sisters in Islam, the purpose of this write-up isn't to make you hate believing men.
Believe it or not, I am doing this from a place of love.
I am an agricultural scientist. I hold an agricultural science degree from the first university of agriculture in Africa and the 7th university of agriculture in the world.
I am a scientist. I majored in Plant Physiology and Crop production.
I was trained in so many laboratories. From soil chemistry, to animal physiology, to plant disease protection, and plant physiology. The agrometeorology station and so much more. I graduated from one of the largest universities on earth, I can busy myself with agriculture and decide that this isn't my business. However, when it comes to right and wrong, every believer has a duty to make the truth clear. Whether a normal person or a learned person.
This is a labour of love.
For far too long, Muslim men have been starved and left without reminders, that changes now!
They have been abandoned for far too long. It is not fair!
Without guidance, humans tend to evil without remorse. We aren't angels. The severity with which Muslim men have been abandoned is so extreme.
They are treated as non-human. As angels. These are humans. Capable of mighty evils. I will never understand how far away they've been left without reminders. Certainly, this is a victory for shayṭān, the rajeem.
I do this work because shayṭān must fail.
I need to see the failure of shayṭān.
In fact, never forget:
إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ لَكُمْ عَدُوٌّ مُّبِينٌ
“Indeed, Shayṭān is to you a clear (open) enemy.”
You must also remember:
Qur’ān 9:71
وَالْمُؤْمِنُونَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتُ بَعْضُهُمْ أَوْلِيَاءُ بَعْضٍ
“The believing men and the believing women are allies (protectors, supporters) of one another.”
And,
AFTERTHOUGHT 3:
My sister in Islam,
A human is still a human even if born without eyes or legs.
Similarly, a woman is a woman even if born without a womb.
Even if you never get pregnant or you don't even have a womb.
No matter what's happening with your physiology Mahr is your right.
In the Shari'ah of ALLAH, the rich must pay 2.5% of their wealth to the poor.
The poor doesn't have to do anything in return.
That's simply the Shari'ah of ALLAH.
Similarly,
In the Shari'a of ALLAH, a groom must pay his bride Mahr.
You don't have to do anything.
I hope that's completely clear.
You can look into this article for more insights.
