Polygamy Ijma'a
BismiLLAH AlhamduliLLAH
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To the Sincere Seekers and deep thinkers,
You might know me through my pre-Tajwīd journey. However, in addition to Tajwīd, there’s more to me—for example, the subject of “women in Islam.” I sacrificed several years of sleep trying to understand this subject.
Polygamy was one of the most confusing parts of the journey for me. So I made duʿāʾ, and I researched deeply until I discovered something remarkable: based on the Ijmaʿa of the Companions (Al-Mughnī 9/483), Muslim women can decide not to be part of polygamy.
This was shocking. I wondered why I had never heard of this, despite being a devout Muslim woman educated in Islam from birth.
So, I decided to write a “book.” But really, it’s more of a letter—a webpage with a URL.
It includes an A–Z, step-by-step process that any Muslim woman can follow to ensure polygamy is not part of her life.
Simply click and read. I cannot understand why this knowledge isn’t widely known, so I made the letter completely free—yes, completely free. I wrote Polygamy Ijma'a so that others don’t have to go through the same struggle I did.
It’s an easy read for anyone— if you're part of the select few who have been praying and searching for answers on the subject of polygamy in Islam. Read it in the name of your LORD who created.
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Polygamy Ijma'a: Reviving Long-lost Knowledge about Polygamy in Islam - A Groundbreaking Research Work by Hamidah Abbas
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ
In the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the most Merciful
About Polygamy...
In Al-Mughni Volume 9, Page 483, you'll find the Ijma‘a — the undisputed legal consensus of the Companions — confirming that a woman has the right to choose not to be in a polygamous marriage.
However, nowadays, this knowledge is almost nowhere to be found in the Islamic society.
As a human of grassroot Da'wah in Nigeria, I have personally placed the shahadah on the tongue of older women and I know with certainty that — in Nigeria — the subject of polygamy is one of the primary reasons why certain women refuse the invitation to Islam. So it has become a duty for me to share the truth about polygamy that's no longer on earth.
And what's the truth?
BismiLLAH:
- The Companions married 2/3/4 women and they still had an Ijma'a (consensus /agreement) that says that a woman who doesn't want to be part of polygamy is free to state this in her marital contract. (Al-Mughni 9/483)
- This is because the matter of marriage is a matter of consent. Some women are going to stipulate it and some are not going to stipulate it.
- However, the problem is that most people have never heard about this Islamic law that gives a Muslim woman the power to decide that she doesn't want polygamy to be part of her life. A lot of women have this false fear that stipulating this condition isn't the best thing to do and it's causing fitnah since polygamy is such a “noble cause”. And especially, that men are not capable of chastity without polygamy.
Well, I am going to bring you complete evidence from the Qur'an and Sunnah on this subject. Starting from the authentic Hadith of Mother Aisha (RadhiaLLAHu anha) that explained why polygamy was allowed in Islam. And you'll come to know that stipulating this condition will cause zero fitnah. You'll come to know with absolute certainty that polygamy has nothing (absolutely nothing) to do with men's chastity. I'll bring you evidence(s)! You'll be shocked and surprised at so many authentic truths that you haven't been taught. I am going to bring this authentic Hadith to you and so many certainly authentic evidences on this subject of polygamy and you'll come to know the absolute truth until no doubt remains in your heart and you'll come to know that stipulating or not stipulating this condition has absolutely nothing to do with being virtuous or not. Rather it is a matter of preference.
Apparently, the truth about the subject of polygamy has died out.
Amr ibn Awf reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Know that whoever revives my practice when it has died out after me will have a reward similar to those who act upon it without detracting from his reward in the slightest, and whoever innovates misguidance displeasing to Allah and His messenger will have a sin similar to those who act upon it without detracting from their sins in the slightest.” (Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2677)
Since the Prophet ﷺ commanded us to revive knowledge, I believe that at this point it has become a duty on the Ummah of Muhammad ﷺ to revive this knowledge — on the right of women to choose monogamy. In this letter, you'll also get to know the only authentic reason why polygamy is made permissible in the law of ALLAH as narrated by Mother Aisha (R.A).
So many people give so many unauthentic explanations for why polygamy was made halal. This literally makes me want to scream.
There's only one authentic reason. And it has absolutely nothing to do with men's insatiable sexual desire.
This authentic reason was narrated in Sahih Bukhari many times.
And in Sahih Muslim, you'll find it only once.
Yet almost everyone is unaware of it. And they all kept repeating so many unauthentic reasons with authority. This error needs to stop.
If you want to know the only authentic reason why polygamy was allowed in the law of ALLAH, read.
If you want to know the step-by-step process that you can follow today as a Muslim woman who would like to be in monogamy permanently, read.
In Al-Mughni Volume 9, Page 483, you'll find the Ijma‘a — the undisputed legal consensus of the Companions — confirming that a woman has the right to choose not to be in a polygamous marriage. And because reviving knowledge is only half the journey, I’ve put together a clear, A–Z letter along with a ready-to-use legal marriage contract, so you can apply this authentic Islamic ruling in real life with confidence.
In this A-Z letter, you’ll learn authentically from Companions such as ʽUmar ibn al-Khaṭṭāb, Saʽd ibn Abī Waqqās, and ʽAmr ibn al-ʽĀṣ (may Allah be pleased with them all).
✨ Special Bonuses include:
- Why none of the daughters of the Prophet ﷺ practiced polygamy — a clear and satisfactory answer.
- The only authentic reason why polygamy is permitted in Islam — according to Mother ʽĀʾishah (Radhiyallāhu ʽAnhā).
Sincerely,
Hamidah Abbas | Author, Polygamy Ijma'a
Distinguished Worshippers of ALLAH,
TO THE ONE WHO DIDN'T GIVE THE FULL ANSWER...
Quick question: To you who wrote an article based off Polygamy Ijma'a but refused to put any reference — I have a question for you: Are you collaborating with shayṭān?
Sis, you reached out to me and I shared the book with you. You read it, summarized it, and later posted the summary, but without a reference.
You even included my connection of ʿUrf with polygamy, but you refused to reference the book. Before my work, there’s literally no book that has ever made that connection between ʿurf and polygamy in the way that I did. I’m autistic; I’ve read everything that’s available to me on earth about polygamy. If anything gets published about polygamy newly, I’ll know if Almighty ALLAH allows it. Once upon a time, my father’s friend who works in Islamic law with a PhD gave me access to the e-library of an Islamic university. Sis, I saw a number of books that I didn't even know could exist.
Honestly, I don't have any problems with the fact that you summarised the main points of my book. In fact, I thank you. However, your summary left people with more questions than answers, you could have easily referenced your source so that they'll get the complete picture but you didn't.
Listen, if you don’t reference the book, how are we going to let everyone know about the Ijmaʿ (consensus/agreement) of the companions that states that Muslim women can decide not to practice polygamy?!
There’s literally no book that has ever been written about the Ijmaʿ (consensus) of the companions — such as ʿUmar ibn al-Khaṭṭāb, ʿAmr ibn al-ʿĀṣ, Muʿāwiya, etc. — that states that a Muslim woman can decide not to be in polygamy. Yes, we have books that mentioned it. But there isn't a single book written on it.
All praises belong to ALLAH for the gift of autism. Certainly, I spent years reading, and I didn’t find a single book written about the Ijmaʿ of the companions on polygamy? I wrote this book to fill a gap in literature, so please stop hoarding knowledge. Please!
Sister, the earlier version that I sent to you doesn't even have my name on it. It has one of my anonymous names, SubhanaLLAH, just reference your source! Or share the full text and put your name if that's what you want to do. But please, stop hiding knowledge, please. I'm almost desperate to make sure that everyone that's searching for guidance on this matter gets satisfactory answers.
Do you want shayṭān to win? Aren’t you tired of the destruction of family that’s happening in Yorùbá land due to the subject of polygamy?!
Do you want our land to continue to deteriorate? I’ve always said that without proper understanding of the subject of gender, we won’t have good marriages. Without good marriages, our families will fall apart — and thereafter, our society.
I wrote this book to stop the destruction of our society.
Polygamy was part of the reasons why the Yorùbá people accepted Islam widely. I have a sense of duty (almost obligation) to accurately present what Islam actually says about polygamy. I say this as a non-governing royal who lives a normal life in a normal house.
Stop hiding Polygamy Ijma'a! This is deeper for me. My late grandfather (May ALLAH have mercy on him) did his best during his life for this land. This book is one of my ways of honouring his legacy.
Share it. The book is literally free. It’s a basic URL. What’s wrong with you? Why are you hiding it, huh?! Are you an agent from shayṭān?
Anyway, may Almighty ALLAH forgive me and you. Because at the end of the day, we are humans and we all sin differently. So may peace be upon you on the day you refuse to reference my book, and on the day that you actually decide to reference my work. And finally, don’t forget to pray for me.
Sincerely,
Hamidah Sẹ̀gílọlá Abbas (HSA • 👑)|| Author — Reviving the Long-Lost Truth About Polygamy in Islam
📚 Read my book — Polygamy Ijmaʿa — for free @ about.me/hamidahabbas
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A look inside Polygamy Ijma'a: (For those who have started reading Polygamy Ijma'a, this is what you'll find at the beginning of the completely free book):
“Prologue: Before I Get into Polygamy, I'll like to address the gender war that shaytan is currently waging on earth”
To the Sincere Seekers and deep thinkers,
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ
In the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the most Merciful
The Prophet ﷺ taught us that the greatest success for Satan is when he manages to cause separation between a husband and wife.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
إِنَّ إِبْلِيسَ يَضَعُ عَرْشَهُ عَلَى الْمَاءِ، ثُمَّ يَبْعَثُ سَرَايَاهُ، فَأَدْنَاهُمْ مِنْهُ مَنْزِلَةً أَعْظَمُهُمْ فِتْنَةً، يَجِيءُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ: فَعَلْتُ كَذَا وَكَذَا، فَيَقُولُ: مَا صَنَعْتَ شَيْئًا. قَالَ: ثُمَّ يَجِيءُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ: مَا تَرَكْتُهُ حَتَّى فَرَّقْتُ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ امْرَأَتِهِ، قَالَ: فَيُدْنِيهِ مِنْهُ وَيَقُولُ: نِعْمَ أَنْتَ
“Indeed, Iblīs places his throne upon the water, then he sends out his detachments. The closest of them to him in rank are the greatest in causing tribulations. One of them comes and says: ‘I did such-and-such,’ and Iblīs says: ‘You have done nothing.’ Then one of them comes and says: ‘I did not leave him until I caused separation between him and his wife.’ So Iblīs brings him close and says: ‘Yes, you are the best.’”
— [Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim, 2813 (also cited in Mishkat al-Masabih, Book of Marriage)]
From this Hadith, it is clear that the most important project to shaytan is the destruction of marriages.
The War that is going on…
As humans, we all know that shaytan is our enemy. And we are all aware that shaytan is extremely passionate about destroying humans. However, the question is: why is marriage destruction the most important project to shaytan?
Well…
Marriage is the nucleus of the entire human society. Without marriage, there won't be families. Without families, the entire human society will cease to exist.
So what is the foundation of marriage?
The foundation of marriage itself is the different genders. Without the difference in gender, there won't be marriages. Shyatan is our ardent enemy. Therefore, it makes sense that shaytan is destroying families before they are formed by creating serious gender wars. It is so clear that the current strategy that shaytan is using to destroy marriages and therefore family and society is the relentless and everlasting gender war that keeps getting worse year after year. This is a serious victory for shaytan and this victory is embarrassing!
Why have we forgotten our background? It all started when our father, Adam (Alayhi salaam) taught Iblis and the angels the names of all things. After this great service of Adam, Almighty ALLAH commanded the angels and shaytan to prostrate to our father. This prostration is the payment that our father gets for his mighty service of teaching them the names of all things. The angels prostrated. However, Iblis felt too big to prostrate. So he entered into the eternal wrath of ALLAH because of his arrogant refusal and anger towards ALLAH. Iblis became an enemy of ALLAH because he was angry at the blessings that Almighty ALLAH gave Adam. Iblis refused to repent so the Almighty rebuked him eternally. And that's where the enmity of shaytan against humans started. So away with shaytan.
Thereafter, our father, Adam (Alayha salaam) felt lonely in paradise and then Almighty ALLAH created his life partner for him so that they may both attain tranquility. Shaytan is very angry with these gifts that men and women will attain if they stay with each other in tranquility. So shaytan got to work. He developed a comprehensive plan. He creeped in on them. His ultimate goal was to make them hate each other. The first havoc he created was to get Adam and Hawa out of paradise so that they won't be able to attain tranquility. But he failed. Because Adam and Hawa stuck with each other and they repented together and they didn't blame each other for getting out of paradise.
You can imagine how angry shaytan was for their kindness towards each other. Thereafter, when our mother, Hawa was pregnant, the Qur'an stated that when the pregnancy became heavy for her, both of them called out to ALLAH. They stayed together so tightly because they have experienced shaytan up close. Shaytan is very easy to defeat once you camp with ALLAH. Our father understood this, so he and his wife sought refuge with ALLAH against shaytan. May ALLAH keep us steadfast.
At the end of the day, you and your wife are just the children of Adam in the eyes of shaytan. He failed to destroy the relationship (marriage) between your parents. Do you think he will let the relationship between their children succeed? You are really funny if you think he'll allow your marriage to succeed without plotting tirelessly to destroy it. Our parents guarded their marriage from every angle. But nowadays, what are we doing with each other? We left the real enemy. Now, we've made an enemy out of each other. What a pity.
If you see 50 people discussing gender in Islam, you will see humans of the opposite gender attacking each other without a single mention of shaytan. Shaytan has successfully made them forget about him—the real enemy. They are now focused on each other. I can imagine shaytan sitting somewhere laughing so victoriously as he is planning how to further divide men and women. Then the problem continues. By ALLAH, we've been deceived. Shaytan is somewhere jubilating and here we are. What a tragedy.
Even at the time of divorce, Almighty ALLAH instructed us to be merciful to each other. For the disbelievers, divorce means an unsuccessful marriage. However, for us, as long as the marriage ended respectfully, divorce is still a success.
Divorce is allowed for a reason, if marriage will make us enemies then we can prevent that by getting a cordial and respectful divorce. But nowadays, if you go to the marriage section of your local shariah court, you will only see a few compassionate divorce. Most of the divorce will be hate filled. What is this? How can we allow shaytan to be celebrating the destruction he has created within us?
Shaytan is very competitive, he doesn't like to lose. Please, be more competitive. Make him lose. Make him lose. I say, make him lose. He has to lose. His loss will give me joy. Your victory will give me elation because we are all from the children of Adam. Shaytan has scored so much against us, it's so embarrassing, however, I refuse to feel defeated. I believe in ALLAH and I pray to HIM to enable believing men and women to start behaving as allies. Almighty ALLAH states in the glorious Qur'an that believing men and women are allies. So let's be allies. Adam and Hawa were the first humans ever. The first relationship that ALLAH established between humans is marriage. May we all follow the example of marriage set by our father, Adam (May ALLAH be pleased with him). May ALLAH grant us understanding. Don’t allow Shayṭān to win. Remember, each time you are kind to your spouse, you are worshipping Allāh. May Allāh grant us success.
And while we’re talking about success —
Verily, we can never become successful as a society if we do not follow the command of Almighty ALLAH.
Almighty ALLAH states in the glorious Qur'an that believing men and women are allies:
وَالْمُؤْمِنُونَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتُ بَعْضُهُمْ أَوْلِيَاءُ بَعْضٍ ۚ يَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَيَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنكَرِ وَيُقِيمُونَ الصَّلَاةَ وَيُؤْتُونَ الزَّكَاةَ وَيُطِيعُونَ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ ۚ أُو۟لَـٰٓئِكَ سَيَرْحَمُهُمُ اللَّهُ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَزِيزٌ حَكِيمٌ
“The believing men and believing women are allies of one another. They enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong, establish prayer, give zakah, and obey Allah and His Messenger. It is they upon whom Allah will have mercy. Indeed, Allah is Exalted in Might and Wise.”
— [Surah At-Tawbah 9:71]
The Prophet ﷺ also gave us instructions. Among these timeless instructions is the command to treat women well.
You will find this noble command recorded in Sahih Muslim (Hadith 1218), Sahih al-Bukhari (Hadith 3331), Sahih Muslim (Hadith 1468), Sunan al-Tirmidhi (Hadith 1162), Ibn Majah (Hadith 1977 — graded Sahih), Musnad Ahmad (Hadith 23957), and Ibn Hibban (Hadith 479).
If women are not a greater risk of being oppressed by men and women then men and women wouldn't have been instructed to treat women well by the Prophet ﷺ so strongly and repeatedly.
And how do we honour women and how do we treat them well? We do this by acknowledging the wrong committed against them.
In our time, one of the most tragic injustices committed against women is the deliberate concealment of essential knowledge — knowledge such as this:
In Al-Mughni, Volume 9, Page 483, there is an Ijma‘a — a unanimous legal consensus of the Companions — affirming that a woman has the right to choose not to be in a polygamous marriage.
Why, then, are we — as an Ummah — refusing to broadcast this truth? Why? How can we hope to defeat Shayṭān when we deliberately hide authentic, undisputed knowledge from one another? How can we claim to be seekers of justice while hoarding the very knowledge that would establish it?
We hide this truth because we romanticize polygamy. But every time we suppress this knowledge, we strengthen Shayṭān’s cause. This concealment has shattered more homes than we can count.
I swear by ALLAH — recognizing the war that Shayṭān wages against us is only part of the solution. We will never end the gender conflict until we end injustice. And we cannot end injustice if we refuse to even acknowledge it.
So let us first admit our wrongs. Let us revive the knowledge that can restore balance and mercy between men and women. Indeed, reviving knowledge is only the beginning; acknowledging our injustice and sincerely repenting for concealing the truth are among the first steps toward healing as a society.
So, in the name of Allāh — let the journey begin…
Amr ibn Awf reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Know that whoever revives my practice when it has died out after me will have a reward similar to those who act upon it without detracting from his reward in the slightest, and whoever innovates misguidance displeasing to Allah and His messenger will have a sin similar to those who act upon it without detracting from their sins in the slightest.” (Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2677)
Since the Prophet ﷺ commanded us to revive knowledge, I believe that at this point it has become a duty on the Ummah of Muhammad ﷺ to revive this knowledge — on the right of women to choose monogamy. If we revive this knowledge, polygamy won't become extinct. Rather it'll give women who can't cope with polygamy a solution and thus this will protect more marriages in the future.
In this letter, you'll also get to know the only authentic reason why polygamy is made permissible in the law of ALLAH as narrated by Mother Aisha (R.A).
So many people give so many unauthentic explanations for why polygamy was made halal. This literally makes me want to scream.
There's only one authentic reason.
It was narrated in Sahih Bukhari many times.And in Sahih Muslim, you'll find it only once.
Yet almost everyone is unaware of it. And they all kept repeating so many unauthentic reasons with authority. This error needs to stop.
If you want to know the only authentic reason why polygamy was allowed in the law of ALLAH, read Polygamy Ijma'a.
If you want to know the step-by-step process that you can follow today as a Muslim woman who would like to be in monogamy permanently, read Polygamy Ijma'a.
In Al-Mughni Volume 9, Page 483, you'll find the Ijma‘a — the undisputed legal consensus of the Companions — confirming that a woman has the right to choose not to be in a polygamous marriage. And because reviving knowledge is only half the journey, I’ve put together a clear, A–Z letter along with a ready-to-use legal marriage contract, so you can apply this authentic Islamic ruling in real life with confidence.
In this A-Z letter, you’ll learn authentically from Companions such as ʽUmar ibn al-Khaṭṭāb, Saʽd ibn Abī Waqqās, and ʽAmr ibn al-ʽĀṣ (may Allah be pleased with them all).
✨ Special Bonuses include:
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Why none of the daughters of the Prophet ﷺ practiced polygamy — a clear and satisfactory answer.
The only authentic reason why polygamy is permitted in Islam — according to Mother ʽĀʾishah (Radhiyallāhu ʽAnhā).
Sincerely,Hamidah Abbas | Author, Polygamy Ijma'a
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