Polygamy Ijma'a
BismiLLAH AlhamduliLLAH
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To the Sincere Seekers and deep thinkers,
Polygamy Ijma'a: Reviving Long-lost Knowledge about Polygamy in Islam - A Groundbreaking Research Work by Hamidah Abbas
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ
In the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the most Merciful
About Polygamy...
In Al-Mughni Volume 9, Page 483, you'll find the Ijma‘a — the undisputed legal consensus of the Companions — confirming that a woman has the right to choose not to be in a polygamous marriage.
However, nowadays, this knowledge is almost nowhere to be found in the Islamic society.
As a human of grassroot Da'wah in Nigeria, I have personally placed the shahadah on the tongue of older women and I know with certainty that — in Nigeria — the subject of polygamy is one of the primary reasons why certain women refuse the invitation to Islam. So it has become a duty for me to share the truth about polygamy that's no longer on earth.
And what's the truth?
BismiLLAH:
- The Companions married 2/3/4 women and they still had an Ijma'a (consensus /agreement) that says that a woman who doesn't want to be part of polygamy is free to state this in her marital contract. (Al-Mughni 9/483)
- This is because the matter of marriage is a matter of consent. Some women are going to stipulate it and some are not going to stipulate it.
- However, the problem is that most people have never heard about this Islamic law that gives a Muslim woman the power to decide that she doesn't want polygamy to be part of her life. A lot of women have this false fear that stipulating this condition isn't the best thing to do and it's causing fitnah since polygamy is such a “noble cause”. And especially, that men are not capable of chastity without polygamy.
Well, I am going to bring you complete evidence from the Qur'an and Sunnah on this subject. Starting from the authentic Hadith of Mother Aisha (RadhiaLLAHu anha) that explained why polygamy was allowed in Islam. And you'll come to know that stipulating this condition will cause zero fitnah. You'll come to know with absolute certainty that polygamy has nothing (absolutely nothing) to do with men's chastity. I'll bring you evidence(s)! You'll be shocked and surprised at so many authentic truths that you haven't been taught. I am going to bring this authentic Hadith to you and so many certainly authentic evidences on this subject of polygamy and you'll come to know the absolute truth until no doubt remains in your heart and you'll come to know that stipulating or not stipulating this condition has absolutely nothing to do with being virtuous or not. Rather it is a matter of preference.
Apparently, the truth about the subject of polygamy has died out.
Amr ibn Awf reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Know that whoever revives my practice when it has died out after me will have a reward similar to those who act upon it without detracting from his reward in the slightest, and whoever innovates misguidance displeasing to Allah and His messenger will have a sin similar to those who act upon it without detracting from their sins in the slightest.” (Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2677)
Since the Prophet ﷺ commanded us to revive knowledge, I believe that at this point it has become a duty on the Ummah of Muhammad ﷺ to revive this knowledge — on the right of women to choose monogamy. In this letter, you'll also get to know the only authentic reason why polygamy is made permissible in the law of ALLAH as narrated by Mother Aisha (R.A).
So many people give so many unauthentic explanations for why polygamy was made halal. This literally makes me want to scream.
There's only one authentic reason.
It was narrated in Sahih Bukhari many times.
And in Sahih Muslim, you'll find it only once.
Yet almost everyone is unaware of it. And they all kept repeating so many unauthentic reasons with authority. This error needs to stop.
If you want to know the only authentic reason why polygamy was allowed in the law of ALLAH, read.
If you want to know the step-by-step process that you can follow today as a Muslim woman who would like to be in monogamy permanently, read.
In Al-Mughni Volume 9, Page 483, you'll find the Ijma‘a — the undisputed legal consensus of the Companions — confirming that a woman has the right to choose not to be in a polygamous marriage. And because reviving knowledge is only half the journey, I’ve put together a clear, A–Z letter along with a ready-to-use legal marriage contract, so you can apply this authentic Islamic ruling in real life with confidence.
In this A-Z letter, you’ll learn authentically from Companions such as ʽUmar ibn al-Khaṭṭāb, Saʽd ibn Abī Waqqās, and ʽAmr ibn al-ʽĀṣ (may Allah be pleased with them all).
✨ Special Bonuses include:
- Why none of the daughters of the Prophet ﷺ practiced polygamy — a clear and satisfactory answer.
- The only authentic reason why polygamy is permitted in Islam — according to Mother ʽĀʾishah (Radhiyallāhu ʽAnhā).
Sincerely,
Hamidah Abbas | Author, Polygamy Ijma'a
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A look inside Polygamy Ijma'a: (For those who have started reading Polygamy Ijma'a, this is what you'll find at the beginning of the completely free book):
“Before I Get into Polygamy, I'll like to address the gender war that shaytan is currently waging on earth
The Prophet ﷺ instructed men and women — in the last sermon He gave on earth — to treat women well. The Prophet is well aware of the complexities of the plots of shaytan. ALLAH states in the glorious Qur'an that some believing men and women are allies. So let's be allies. Adam and Hawa were the first humans ever. The first relationship that ALLAH established between humans is marriage.
The verse is:
وَالْمُؤْمِنُونَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتُ بَعْضُهُمْ أَوْلِيَاءُ بَعْضٍ ۚ يَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَيَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنكَرِ وَيُقِيمُونَ الصَّلَاةَ وَيُؤْتُونَ الزَّكَاةَ وَيُطِيعُونَ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ ۚ أُو۟لَـٰٓئِكَ سَيَرْحَمُهُمُ اللَّهُ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَزِيزٌ حَكِيمٌ
“The believing men and believing women are allies of one another. They enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong, establish prayer, give zakah, and obey Allah and His Messenger. It is they upon whom Allah will have mercy. Indeed, Allah is Exalted in Might and Wise.”
— [Surah At-Tawbah 9:71]
The War that is going on…
Marriage is the nucleus of the entire human society. There is a reason shaytan is laboring hard to kill that institution.
Think about it, how did our father Adam get out of paradise? Isn't it because shaytan put things in their heads? Right from the beginning of time, shaytan has been our enemy. He is very smart nowadays. He's extremely strategic. Can't you see what he's doing? He's busy turning men and women against each other. The hatred that believing men and women have for each other is such a huge victory for shaytan.
If you see 50 people discussing gender in Islam, you will see humans of the opposite gender attacking each other without a single mention of shaytan. Shaytan has successfully made them forget about him—the real enemy. They are now focused on each other. I can imagine shaytan sitting somewhere laughing so victoriously as he is planning how to further divide men and women. Then the problem continues. By ALLAH, we've been playing. Shaytan is somewhere jubilating and here we are. What a tragedy.
The Prophet ﷺ taught that the greatest success for Satan is when he manages to cause separation between a husband and wife.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
إِنَّ إِبْلِيسَ يَضَعُ عَرْشَهُ عَلَى الْمَاءِ، ثُمَّ يَبْعَثُ سَرَايَاهُ، فَأَدْنَاهُمْ مِنْهُ مَنْزِلَةً أَعْظَمُهُمْ فِتْنَةً، يَجِيءُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ: فَعَلْتُ كَذَا وَكَذَا، فَيَقُولُ: مَا صَنَعْتَ شَيْئًا. قَالَ: ثُمَّ يَجِيءُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ: مَا تَرَكْتُهُ حَتَّى فَرَّقْتُ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ امْرَأَتِهِ، قَالَ: فَيُدْنِيهِ مِنْهُ وَيَقُولُ: نِعْمَ أَنْتَ
“Indeed, Iblīs places his throne upon the water, then he sends out his detachments. The closest of them to him in rank are the greatest in causing tribulations. One of them comes and says: ‘I did such-and-such,’ and Iblīs says: ‘You have done nothing.’ Then one of them comes and says: ‘I did not leave him until I caused separation between him and his wife.’ So Iblīs brings him close and says: ‘Yes, you are the best.’”
— [Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim, 2813 (also cited in Mishkat al-Masabih, Book of Marriage)]
This highlights how Shayṭān is most pleased when he destroys families by breaking the bond between husband and wife — because family is the foundation of a righteous society.
Why have we forgotten our background? It all started when our father, Adam felt lonely and ALLAH created his life partner for him so that they may both attain tranquility. Shaytan is very angry with these gifts that men and women will attain if they stay with each other in tranquility. Shaytan got to work. He developed a comprehensive plan. He creeped in on them. His ultimate goal was to make them hate each other. The first havoc he created was to get Adam and Hawa out of paradise so that they won't be able to attain tranquility. But he failed. Because Adam and Hawa stuck with each other and they repented together and they didn't blame each other for getting out of paradise.
You can imagine how angry shaytan was for their kindness towards each other. He must be so angry. When Hawa was pregnant, the Qur'an stated that when the pregnancy became heavy for her, both of them called out to ALLAH. They stayed together so tightly because they have experienced shaytan up close. Shaytan is very easy to defeat once you camp with ALLAH. Our father understood this, so he and his wife sought refuge with ALLAH against shaytan. May ALLAH keep us steadfast.
At the end of the day, you and your wife are just the children of Adam in the eyes of shaytan. He failed to destroy the relationship (marriage) between your parents. Do you think he will let the relationship between their children succeed? You are really funny if you think he'll allow your marriage to succeed without plotting tirelessly to destroy it. Our parents guarded their marriage from every angle. But nowadays, what are we doing with each other? We left the real enemy. Now, we've made an enemy out of each other. What a pity. Even at the time of divorce, Almighty ALLAH instructed us to be merciful to each other. For the disbelievers, divorce means an unsuccessful marriage. However, for us, as long as the marriage ended respectfully, divorce is still a success.
Divorce is allowed for a reason, if marriage will make us enemies then we can prevent that by getting a cordial and respectful divorce. But nowadays, if you go to the marriage section of your local shariah court, you will only see a few compassionate divorce. Most of the divorce will be hate filled. What is this? How can we allow shaytan to be celebrating the destruction he has created within us? Shaytan is very competitive, he doesn't like to lose. Please, be more competitive. Make him lose. Make him lose. I say, make him lose. He has to lose. His loss will give me joy. Your victory will give me elation because we are all from the children of Adam. Shaytan has scored so much against us, it's so embarrassing, however, I refuse to feel defeated. I believe in ALLAH and I pray to HIM to enable believing men and women to start behaving as allies. May we all follow the example of marriage set by our father, Adam (May ALLAH be pleased with him). May ALLAH grant us understanding. Don’t allow Shayṭān to win. Remember, each time you are kind to your spouse, you are worshipping Allāh. May Allāh grant us success.
And while we’re talking about success —
Verily, we can never become successful as a society if we do not follow the instructions of the Prophet ﷺ. Among these timeless instructions is the command to treat women well.
The Prophet ﷺ gave both men and women highly specific instructions regarding this. You will find this noble command recorded in Sahih Muslim (Hadith 1218), Sahih al-Bukhari (Hadith 3331), Sahih Muslim (Hadith 1468), Sunan al-Tirmidhi (Hadith 1162), Ibn Majah (Hadith 1977 — graded Sahih), Musnad Ahmad (Hadith 23957), and Ibn Hibban (Hadith 479).
Acknowledging the war that Shayṭān is waging is only part of the solution. We will never end this gender war unless we end injustice — and we cannot end injustice if we refuse to even acknowledge it. If women are not a greater risk of being oppressed by men and women then men and women wouldn't have been instructed to treat women well by the Prophet ﷺ so strongly and repeatedly.
So let us revive the knowledge that will equip us. Reviving knowledge is only part of the journey. Acknowledging the wrongs committed against the oppressed and sincerely repenting for hoarding knowledge are among the first steps toward healing as a society.
So, in the name of Allāh — let the journey begin…
In Al-Mughni Volume 9, Page 483, you'll find the Ijma‘a — the undisputed legal consensus of the Companions — confirming that a woman has the right to choose not to be in a polygamous marriage.
However, nowadays, this knowledge is almost nowhere to be found in the Islamic society.
As a human of grassroot Da'wah in Nigeria, I have personally placed the shahadah on the tongue of older women and I know with certainty that — in Nigeria — the subject of polygamy is one of the primary reasons why certain women refuse the invitation to Islam. So it has become a duty for me to share the truth about polygamy that's no longer on earth.
And what's the truth?
BismiLLAH:
- The Companions married 2/3/4 women and they still had an Ijma'a (consensus /agreement) that says that a woman who doesn't want to be part of polygamy is free to state this in her marital contract. (Al-Mughni 9/483)
- This is because the matter of marriage is a matter of consent. Some women are going to stipulate it and some are not going to stipulate it.
- However, the problem is that most people have never heard about this Islamic law that gives a Muslim woman the power to decide that she doesn't want polygamy to be part of her life.
Apparently, the truth about the subject of polygamy has died out.
Amr ibn Awf reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Know that whoever revives my practice when it has died out after me will have a reward similar to those who act upon it without detracting from his reward in the slightest, and whoever innovates misguidance displeasing to Allah and His messenger will have a sin similar to those who act upon it without detracting from their sins in the slightest.” (Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2677)
Since the Prophet ﷺ commanded us to revive knowledge, I believe that at this point it has become a duty on the Ummah of Muhammad ﷺ to revive this knowledge — on the right of women to choose monogamy. In this letter, you'll also get to know the only authentic reason why polygamy is made permissible in the law of ALLAH as narrated by Mother Aisha (R.A).
So many people give so many unauthentic explanations for why polygamy was made halal. This literally makes me want to scream.
There's only one authentic reason.
It was narrated in Sahih Bukhari many times.
And in Sahih Muslim, you'll find it only once.
Yet almost everyone is unaware of it. And they all kept repeating so many unauthentic reasons with authority. This error needs to stop.
If you want to know the only authentic reason why polygamy was allowed in the law of ALLAH, read.
If you want to know the step-by-step process that you can follow today as a Muslim woman who would like to be in monogamy permanently, read.
In Al-Mughni Volume 9, Page 483, you'll find the Ijma‘a — the undisputed legal consensus of the Companions — confirming that a woman has the right to choose not to be in a polygamous marriage. And because reviving knowledge is only half the journey, I’ve put together a clear, A–Z letter along with a ready-to-use legal marriage contract, so you can apply this authentic Islamic ruling in real life with confidence.
In this A-Z letter, you’ll learn authentically from Companions such as ʽUmar ibn al-Khaṭṭāb, Saʽd ibn Abī Waqqās, and ʽAmr ibn al-ʽĀṣ (may Allah be pleased with them all).
✨ Special Bonuses include:
- Why none of the daughters of the Prophet ﷺ practiced polygamy — a clear and satisfactory answer.
- The only authentic reason why polygamy is permitted in Islam — according to Mother ʽĀʾishah (Radhiyallāhu ʽAnhā).”
- End of quote.
(This was copied and pasted from my letter (also known as URL-BOOK, Polygamy Ijma'a)
If you would like to continue reading, click here (Polygamy Ijma'a) or here (about.me/hamidahabbas)
With 💕,
Hamidah Sẹ̀gílọlá Abbas (HSA•👑)
