Hamidah Abbas Letters (Hall)

BismiLLAH AlhamduliLLAH  Polygamy Ijmaʿa : Why I Wrote This Book I wrote “Polygamy Ijmaʿa” , a digital book published on Google Docs for FREE because the amount of miseducation on polygamy in Islam is criminal. This is a book that fills a gap in Islamic literature . If you read it , you’ll learn things you’ve never heard about polygamy in Islam. For example: In Al-Mughnī, Volume 9, page 483 , all of the Companions of the Prophet ﷺ agreed that a Muslim woman can decide NOT to be in polygamy. The False Narrative Around Polygamy Polygamy is usually presented in Islam as something that a woman has no choice about. In fact, it is presented as a VIRTUE . Men are portrayed as beings who are incapable of controlling their sexual desires without polygamy. THESE ARE ALL LIES. There is NO evidence in Islamic literature that connects male sexual desire with polygamy AT ALL . In fact, polygamy was made permissible for only one reason , and that reason is documented severa...

BismiLLAH AlhamduliLLAH  ALLAH Is Closer Than You Imagine When I performed Umrah about two months ago, I met a fellow sister from Nigeria who has lived in Makkah for  about 11 years. She was so warm to me—and she speaks Yorùbá. She isn’t Yorùbá by tribe, but she lived in Kwara, and that is how she learned my language. So we spoke Yorùbá inside Masjid al-Ḥarām . We were both happy. As a parting gift, she gave me a tasbih counter. She herself is like a light and a delight. May Almighty ALLAH preserve her. That counter turned out to be a very meaningful gift. A Quiet Intention About two years ago, a grandmother accepted Islam through me. She only began observing Ṣalāh last week. I wanted to give her a gift. And the tasbih counter came to my heart—because it is beautiful to say tasbih after Ṣalāh. Still, I debated with myself. Should I give it to her or not? I kept telling myself, “It’s my gift.” Yet, I went to her house anyway, with the intention of giving it to h...

BismiLLAH AlhamduliLLAH  We Are Not Having the Right Conversation About Polygamy We are not having the right conversation about polygamy—and it is destroying this Ummah. We should not be centering the conversation on how a wife is supposed to react after her husband marries another wife. That framing is already dishonest. It assumes inevitability. It assumes she had no say. It assumes the matter was decided over her, not with her. That is not the Islamic position. What the Companions Actually Agreed Upon In Al-Mughnī , Volume 9, page 483, it is clearly stated that the Companions of the Prophet ﷺ had a consensus that a woman may decide not to be in a polygamous marriage. Yes— a Muslim woman can decide not to be in polygamy . This is no different from the well-known ruling that although Muslim men are permitted to marry Christian women, a Christian woman still has the right to refuse . Permission for a man does not eliminate choice for a woman . Permissi...