My brother if you don't provide her material needs, you don't love her
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ
In the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the most Merciful
Brothers in Islam, let me bring you some marriage advice from Zohran Mamdani.
Zohran promised to meet the material needs of New Yorkers, that's why he's loved...
In case you don't know, Zohran Mamdani went from being unknown to being a worldwide sensation after winning the election as the Mayor of New York City in 2025.
He literally rose from 1% vote score to over 50% in the primaries before he won again in the general election.
He said “I'll freeze the rent, I'll provide childcare, I'll make the bus fast and free” and in no time, he rose to become the Mayor,
Do you see, all he spoke about is the MATERIAL needs of his people.
People are materialistic because we need materials to stay alive COMFORTABLY
IF YOU DONT WANT THE COMFORT OF YOUR WIFE-TO-BE, THEN YOU DON'T LOVE THEM.
My brothers in Islam,
Let me repeat that, a woman bought a house for another woman.
A woman bought a house for a woman who has always worked for her as a nanny.
Listen, anyone who cares about you will care about your financial security.
Do you know that it is possible for someone to be cruel without realising that they're cruel?
Do you know it is possible to be wicked whilst thinking of yourself as a good person?
Indeed it is possible to be evil without knowing it.
So let me help you my brothers in Islam.
Listen to me brothers, if you don't want that woman to have
• financial security
• Dignity
• A sense of accomplishment and ownership,
then you don't care about her so please don't marry her, it is an injustice to you.
Normally, a human needs livelihood.
Livelihood means material stuff that makes life on earth possible and easy.
If you die today, your house will become an inheritance which your parents, children, and family will inherit.
Every human wants a house.
Every human needs a house.
Every human needs a space that's theirs that they fully control
If you don't feel a primal need to secure your wife to the best of your capacity then I hate to break it to you — you don't love that human.
It is impossible to love a human without wanting to provide security for them at the highest level.
Senator Natasha is extremely respectful to her nanny.
Her nanny lives with her.
Her nanny gets paid
However, she knows if anything were to happen to her, her nanny will go through excruciating difficulties.
She doesn't wait for anything to happen to her Nanny.
So she provides her with housing security.
Her Nanny still lives with her.
Her Nanny still gets paid by her.
However, her Nanny feels more relaxed in life knowing that she always have a house.
Now, that's love. That's true love. That's care. That's true care.
If you are the type that can do things out of duty then marry without love.
However, if you need love to be good to your wife then I beg you, please don't get married until you find someone you love.
Wait and pray until Almighty ALLAH bestows on you that which you won't be able to be grateful enough for, wait for Almighty ALLAH to bless you with a woman that your heart flutters for.
Don't marry a woman you can't stand.
Don't marry a woman you hate.
Don't marry a woman you don't care about.
It is possible to actually feel love.
Pray until you feel love.
Pray.
Distinguished Worshippers of ALLAH,
I'm Hamidah Abbas, the author of Polygamy Ijma'a.
In today's letter, all I'm here to do is to provide marriage education for Muslim men, for far too long, they've been left unattended and I hope through my work Almighty ALLAH guide those who are genuinely seeking guidance.
These things come naturally to people who are in love.
However, not everyone is going to be in love.
It's like becoming a billionaire.
Not everyone is going to ever get there.
So if you don't love your wife-to-be and you still want to get married then you need to learn how to be a good husband and you need to provide even if you don't feel like it.
Some very rare men are going to be good to their wives out of love.
However, to the majority of people who won't feel that level of love in life, they must actually learn to provide out of duty.
Marriage is not a pillar of Islam.
However, if you do decide to get married then give it all takes so that you won't enter the fire of ALLAH.
Sincerely,
Hamidah Abbas | Self-Published Author | Genre: Islamic Family Law
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